Thursday, June 14, 2007

How To Be A Better Couple

(1) Be realistic about each other

Don't try to turn your partner into something he or she is not. Give your partner a break and understand that their physical appearance is NOT going to change overnight with facial treatments or plastic surgery. Love your partner for who they are. There is more to your partner than what meets the eye.


(2) Always talk things out

Now guys, I know this is not your favorite pastime or mode of resolving issues, but you know what? This works with the girls. Don't make assumptions about each other's feelings. Learn to express yourself better so that your partner understands what you are angry about, hurt about, or even happy about! When you stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end.


(3) Do stuff together

Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve yourselves in some shared activities; something both of you enjoyed or interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or just strolling hand-in-hand on the beach. And guys, do give in if your girl asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sorta activities" instead. If you're spending more time with your friends rather than with your partner, it's a warning sign that you're drifting apart!


(4) Meet each other halfway

Now girls, if he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "I love Satan" print, you shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks you to keep your room tidy. There's gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.


(5) Show your love

Buy your sweetheart flowers, candy or perfume every now and then, even if you have been together for years. It is wonderful to continue showing someone that you care for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine's Day card, knit him mini-socks he can't wear (like for decoration purposes), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him... so that he knows you can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while.


(6) Respect each other

Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is you love to laugh at. Ask yourself if she thinks it's funny. And if he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.


(7) Bury the past

Stop bringing up the past. Girls, don't bring up the happy things about you and your ex to your current boyfriend, it would just make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don't talk about the happy times that you had with your ex or mention about her in your every other sentence as it would make your girl feel unhappy and she might think that you are saying all these because you are gonna get back with your ex or not interested in her anymore.


(8) Sit on your jealousy

All of us go through spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy. If you're gonna go through your partner's cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, you know something is wrong - with you! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads through the relationship before finally killing it. Trust your partner; love has to have trust in it.


(9) Keep your commitments to each other

If your partner is standing you up all the time, canceling dates and breaking promises, you need to talk! If you're in a relationship, make your partner your priority and don't disappoint them if you can help it. It's really terrible when someone promises to take you to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don't make promises you can't keep. If your partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to you, you may just lose him/her.


(10) Be honest

Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly! When we say, "be honest", we mean expressing your feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When you are hurt, say so, and when you are angry, tell him/her, without getting hysterical. If you can't be honest with your partner, who can you be honest with? Love is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably isn't worth it!

3 comments:

juliamoh said...

i kenot do number 8 :(

michsue said...

awww... sweetie... *hugz* i know how u feel... cuz i'm just like u... =/ it's hard NOT to get jealous... *sniffs*

InfiniteReveries said...

nice article =)